For some reason, the term ‘relationship boundary’ has a negative connotation. It is perceived as putting restrictions on a relationship. But it does not need to be a bad thing. In fact, having relationship boundaries could bring you and your SO closer. Here’s how.
Spending time apart
You may think that being joined at the hip will work wonders for your relationship. But a little space is actually good for you. It gives you the opportunity to grow as an individual. It also helps you appreciate your partner, flaws et al.
If you feel the urge to stalk your partner on social media or check his phone, resist it. Divert your mind. Not respecting someone’s privacy could lead to trust issues, which will only come back to haunt you in the long run.
It is not possible to split responsibilities equally. There may be times when you will have to shoulder the burden more than him, and vice versa. But splitting your responsibilities means you know that both of you are committed to the relationship, even the banal parts such as cooking and cleaning, or paying bills.
Having separate finances
Money creates issues in many a relationship. While it does make sense to have a joint account where you pool your money and spend on your joint expenses, having separate accounts can go a long way in preventing issues from cropping up in the future.
Being your own person
While compromises are an integral part of making a relationship work, you should never have to change who you are for anyone. Always remember that your partner fell in love with you, as you are. Changing that means doing away with an essential part of what makes you the person you are.
Having a list of dos and don’ts in the bedroom
There may be things you are open to experimenting with, and things that make you uncomfortable in the bedroom. Having a free and frank discussion on sex increases intimacy between you two, and that’s a huge plus.