It’s understandable if you need to give yourself time to heal after a painful breakup. At the same time, you realise that you need to let go of the past and get back into the dating game. That’s he only way you can find ever-lasting love and happiness and you do deserve it. Transition smoothly with the help of these healthy steps:
Step 1- It’s all about you
Whatever you do, do not rush into anything. It is common to miss and crave affection from a significant other after a breakup. So instead of beating yourself up about it, simply turn the attention onto yourself. Take yourself out on a date, go for a manicure/pedicure session. Better yet, jot down on paper all the things you love about yourself and stick it onto your dresser, so you don’t forget it ever! This is the tie time to love and respect yourself more than you ever did.
Step 2- Break the pattern
Recognise where you may have gone wrong in your past relationship. Perhaps you were too possessive, or had too many expectations, or you didn’t give enough time to your partner. Recycle the old you and break these old habits. Start small. Try new things, such as a new place for lunch or taking up a new hobby.
Step 3- Keep your expectations low
Tell yourself that going out for a date or meeting someone new is not such a big deal. This will automatically prevent you from sky-high expectations. Treat it as just another event in your life that may or may not work out. Warning: don’t drop your expectations too low either that you say yes to every other guy that comes along!
Step 4- Make the effort
Dress up and show up. Half of your work is done there. It doesn’t hurt to even get out of your social circle and meet someone completely different. It may seem scary at first, but remember, you deserve to go out and have some fun again, one step at a time.
Step 5- Put yourself out there
Join a dating app, ask a friend to set you up or hit the bar at happy hours. Once you’ve identified that you’re ready to start dating again, you need to start putting yourself out there. The more you do, the higher the chances of you meeting someone. And remember, it may take a couple of bad dates to get there but if you persist, you will get lucky.
Step 6- Be you
Putting yourself out there can be hard. And the first few dates you go on might be hard. Remember to be yourself and stay true to who you are. There’s nothing more attractive than someone who accepts themselves and is happy the way they are.